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Transform Your Life by Shifting Your Perspective: Tips and Strategies

Today, I wanted to talk about something that is quite important.

I want to talk about that one thing that you can do that can literally change your life today for the better.

And this is all about the importance of changing your perspective so that you can start winning in life.

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The most beautiful green space at Robean Bali

You can also watch the video version of this. Or listen to the podcast version of this blog on all major podcast platforms.

And I have also attached the episode below.

Glass half Full or Half empty

I’m not kidding when I say that.

I do notice there’s a major difference between people who choose to live their life in accordance to that one thing versus those who just choose not to do that or who simply aren’t even aware of that.

So this is why it was very important for me to share this.

The video format of this blog

That number one thing we’re gonna get right into it is changing your perception.

Now, I know you’re like, what? Oh my God, no, no, no, no.

We’re not trying to do some woo woo.

It’s a very simple one.

But the idea behind it is just realigning yourself, doing like a mindset shift.

So in other word, what I’m trying to say is changing your perception when you go through life, choosing to see the positive, changes everything.

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A little shopping in Istanbul

Nothing to do with Toxic Positivity

“No, we’re not talking about toxic positivity here.

You know, and also choosing to constantly reframing your mind.

Technically, it’s just reframing your mind all the time.

This, I noticed, is a difference between people who believe they can do that and people who believe they can’t.

Stef Barti and another solo female traveller enjoying a hot air balloon in Cappadocia
Türkiye Girls trip

Reframing Your mind Vs Victimhood

People who succeed and those who just, you know, are just stuck in that constant victim mindset that they just can’t get out of.

So the importance of shifting your mindset, choosing to change your perspective whenever life happens to you.

Let me give you an example.

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Lots of things to consider, But think about your own lifestyle and needs

Don’t sweat the small stuff

Let’s say, right, you are in the elevator.

Let’s say you’re waiting, you’re in your building, waiting for the elevator, right?

You press the little button, you’re waiting, you’re waiting.

You walk into the elevator, you say hi.

Oh, hi!

You’re in an amazing mood.

Stef Barti selfie by an elevator
This day I did a little too much, walked 3 flights of stairs 3 days post hysterectomy. I do not recommend this 🙂

You just left your house. You knew you were gonna spend an amazing day.

You’re so happy, you’re ready to conquer the day.

And you just say hi to the first person you see, the second the doors open.

Then you enter the elevator and wait.

But then that person doesn’t, doesn’t say hi back. You know? WTF

Most of us will be cut up in that loophole of toxic mindset of, oh my God, they don’t like me. Oh, they’re rude. What?

Stef Barti visiting and walking in the streets of milos Greece
the beautiful streets of Milos Greece

Let go of What you can’t control

And then this would change your entire mood, your entire mindset.

Your entire mood is just changed just because you entered the elevator, you said hi, and that person didn’t reply to you.

You see where I’m going with this?

And then you go to your car and you’re like, what the hell?

Why didn’t that person reply to me? And then you drive to work and you’re like, what the fuck? Now you actually really, really annoyed.

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The beautiful caldera in Santorini

Domino Effect

Next thing you know your coworker says hi to you.

Now you just annoyed, you’re not really in a good mood. Y

our mood has been totally destroyed just because of that initial interaction.

Now imagine if you walk in the elevator, right?

It’s same situation. You say, oh, hi. The person doesn’t reply.

Selfie Time before I explore the city as a solo female traveler in Tirana Albania
Selfie Time before I explore the city as a solo female traveler ( in Tirana Albania)

Let Things go

“Instead of going down the spiraling negative thoughts, imagine you just reframe your mind and think, hold up, hold up, hold up.

Let me stop for a second. Maybe that person didn’t hear me.

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I left my heart in Tirana

Give them the benefit of the doubt

Or maybe that person has an earplug and you can’t even see that, and they’re listening to music.

Or maybe that person is, I don’t know, just deaf. 🤷🏽‍♀️

You get my point.

My point is, I realized that since I started living my life like that, everything got better.

You know, just getting into the habit of giving people the benefit of the doubt. No, it does not mean you let people walk all over you either.

Stef Barti relaxing in a sauna in Tallinn Esonia
relaxing in a sauna in Tallinn Esonia

Take your power back

What it means is that you take your power back.

You take your power back, and you just don’t give people as much power as perhaps you’ve once done.

You don’t give people that much power to so easily ruin your day. You don’t let them have such a hold on you.

And that’s something that you can apply in all aspects of your life, right?

Let’s say you have this goal that you really want to do. Like this business idea that you’re really working on.

my nail technician in riga showing off her Taekwondo skills
my awesome lovely nail technician showing off her Taekwondo skills in Riga Latvia

Say no to negativity & Believe in yourself

But if you’re constantly caught up in the negative mindset, oh my God, I’ll never be good enough. “Can I do this? Can I not do that?”

It will quickly spiral down. It’s just a negative feedback. And you know the adage, “whether you believe you can and you can’t, you’re right?”

Well, it’s kind of the same principle here.

So you really have to believe in yourself. You have to just protect your mindset.

stef barti strolling the streets of Mexico city China town, solo female traveling
Strolling the streets and posing in Mexico city . I travelled solo but met another solo female traveler in a free walking tour 🙂

Always Reframe

Just choose to reframe things.

You can do this in everything in life.

Even if it doesn’t come natural to you, maybe you can say “you know what, I’m gonna try this today”.

Taking a selfie at Bovilla lake reservoir in Albania
Just wow ( bovilla lake Albania)

Maybe you can say, “I’m gonna try to implement this this week”.

Give it a try and see how much it can change your life.

And I am not kidding when I say that.

Become magnetic

Another perk is that at the same time, you also become extremely magnetic.

You become attractive. People want to be around you.

The truth is most people like to be around positive people.

Isn’t this an attractive personality trait?

I think I’m going to have to do more series here on my blog, podcast and channel, because I truly love this topic.

I absolutely love it. So just to recap, right?

Stef Barti cooking class in Tirana, taking a picture with an Albanian grandmother
The loveliest Albanian grandmother

Reducing Stress

We need to change our mindset.

We need to just elevate ourselves and just stop always thinking about negative and going for the worst right away.

Let’s all reframe our mindset because it makes life better on a day-to-day.

It reduces stress and stops us from constantly thinking negatively.

I think this changes your life exponentially.

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Most friendly Icelandic horses

You become a nicer person

It can change your life once you start thinking that way.

You can apply it in every single, every single space in your life, every single area. And you become a nicer person.

Doing pole fitness in Riga active vacation
Trying some new fun workout and simultaneously getting in touch with my inner goddess.

Good mood & Domino effect

It uplifts your mood and makes you a fun person to be around.

And this can have a domino effect and gives you a much better return on life.

So I will leave this here for now, and I will definitely expand more on that a bit later.

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hiking in Iceland, so beautiful

Because you’re magic

I will like to leave you with my tagline from my podcast as a way to uplift your day.

“So this was my message for today. But before I go, remember my love, that you are a beautiful, unique creation, a masterpiece, one of a kind, and can never be duplicated. I wish you a nice day, and I will see you in the next podcast episode.”

💕

Stef Barti at sky lagoon spa in iceland with a beer in her hand
The most inviting Spa in Iceland ” SKy Lagoon”

Embody Your Truth with my Dance & Self Love Practice

Now I am very aware that not everyone is a dancer and that’s exactly why I created my “Unleash your Feminine Power” to help you really start diving into your own unique power.

Stef Barti at a Ubud waterfall springs
It’s time for us women to start appreciating our own magic

In this course, you will learn to connect with your body through some very sensual movements.

There is no fancy choreography to worry about. I really wanted to make this as simple as possible.

The goal is to give you a somatic practice that you can implement into your daily routine in order to start embodying your authentic self.

Stef Barti at a Ubud waterfall springs
Because you are magic and deserve to take care of yourself

It is high time we start prioritizing our relationship with our own body too.

Because in order to be truly happy and content in life, I really believe you need to strike for a balance.

That means feeding your soul, your heart, your body.

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You are magic !

And this is the goal of my ” Unleash your Feminine Power“.

The beautiful thing is that once you start getting in touch with that fire within, it only grows from there.

This energy will go on to light up your path, simultaneously guiding you through life.

So in a way, it is your own inner guiding compass. 💕

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It’s time to thrive girlies!

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Stef barti in a Jungle in Bali
Absolutely magical Bali

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Breakfast table during my stay at Blue Karma Dijiwa. Part of my friend’s @shahadlabelle yoga retreat . Absolute magical!

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so yummy but there’s just no more space 🫣

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This was so much fun ( best cooking class in Tirana)

Women Feminine Embodiment Wellness Retreat

I am so passionate about women empowerment. Everything I do is based on this. I want to see more women embrace their authentic selves. Trust me life gets so much better.

That’s the main focus of my self love women retreat. In this Wellness retreat, we go deep. I really love to connect with my fellow sisters.

That’s why I only do small groups of 10-12 women.

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This retreat is an invitation to embody your feminine and to dive into radical self love. Growth and shedding past limiting beliefs is the focal point.

We do this through various workshops, wellness practices such as breath work and lots of somatic movement.

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As a dance teacher, of course we will also be using the power of dance and music to process, release and shed things that are holding us back so we can be born again.

Welcome to our transformational retreat where the focus is all on YOU.

Not only that, but we do it in style and comfort.

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The most inviting pool 🙂

Our next retreat is in a breathtaking villa on the beautiful island of Gozo Malta. We will be staying in our own private villa.

And did I mention our own private chef? with our own private pool 🤭.

villa and hosting place for Stef Barti's Self Love and embodiment women retreat in Malta
villa and hosting place for Stef Barti's Self Love and embodiment women retreat in Malta

It is the perfect time to slow down and prioritize yourself.

Also, don’t forget to stay in touch for my Bali self love women wellness retreat, for pure feminine embodiment and lots of dancing also.

Listen to our Women Self Improvement Podcast

There is a whole world waiting for you to discover.

Cheers to your next adventure

On that note, I am leaving you with this popular episode from my women podcast “She thrives” with Stef Barti

  • 19: You need female friends & start prioritizing sisterhood right now

Keep being awesome 🙂

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