23 Essential Tips to Become a Happier You Today

So, exactly how do you become a happier person? This blog will give you practical advice that you can adopt today to improve your quality of life.

I do have some of my best tips that I use on a day-to-day basis in order to be the happiest person I can be.

Now, obviously, we all have bad days. That’s just life.

But generally speaking, I really think you should strive to implement these rules into your life as much as possible.

This was an excerpt from my woman’s podcast She Thrives with Stef Barti

You can listen to the podcast version and also in video format below

Start with Gratitude

We’ve all heard about that one over and over again.

But I promise you, gratitude makes such a big difference.

By learning to appreciate what you have right now in your life, I really puts you on such a different frequency.

At the same time, you are opening yourself to receiving even more great things ahead

Abundance Mindset

It’s totally fine to be striving for the best in life, to be striving to be better, to be striving to improve your life and attract more abundance and be more successful.

But at the same time, I really think that it’s very important to still learn to be happy and grateful with what you have right now.

And I think this is a trick in unlocking the next level, because you ever see people who seem to have everything, they have so much more than you do, but they’re still very miserable?

So I really do think that in a way, it’s an inside job.

So you really need to be able to learn to be grateful right now.

It’s never too late to start

You can start right now. There’s always something that you can be grateful for. That could be your health.

You’re never too old or never too late. You are exactly where you need to be at this moment.

Count Your Blessings

So health is something that we take for granted, but if you are a healthy person, this alone is something to be super, super grateful for.

Your friends, your family, having a job or a home, you know?

I don’t know, just not being homeless is a major privilege in life.

There are so many other things.

It doesn’t have to be with massive things but it could be something as simple as the cup of tea you have in your hands right now. Or just enjoying the warmth of your blanket.

Learn to count your blessings for everything, especially the little things, as much as possible.

Embrace Positivity Today

And because I really believe that mindset is everything, trust me, everything is there.

Trust me.

Try it and let me know.

Be positive.

That means : be a positive person.

Choose to see things in a positive light.

What that means is be the kind of person to see the cup, half full rather than half empty.

And that makes a massive difference in life.

Once again, it all goes back to the mindset part.

Negative Energy is draining

I know some people who are negative.

They always devote so much energy in thinking that the sky is falling down on them.

Everything is doom and gloom.

It’s so draining, to be honest.

Don’t be that person.

And also, no one likes to be around the negative Nancy.

I know I don’t.

I actually go out of my way to avoid these people like the plague.

So do be mindful of that.

What type of energy do you show up with?

Be aware of the kind of energy you bring with you when you go somewhere.

Just be that person who radiates positivity, because then you will attract positive people around you.

Sadly, you will also attract negative people, because they’re also will want a piece and want to drain you too.

They need that fuel source.

But with discernment, you will get better at removing these people from your life or keeping them at arm’s bay and then attracting other positive people to your life.

Be selective with your entourage

Now, once again, I’m guessing, like I just said, surround yourself with positive people.

Stay away from the energy vampires.

This is so important for your mental wellness, for your well-being, and for your overall life satisfaction.

Mindful consumption

Another thing is to be mindful of what you consume.

The same way they say that we are a sum of the people that we surround ourselves with.

I truly believe that we are also a product of what we consume.

What we put to input into our brain matter.

So no need to be paranoid but be mindful with Instagram, because its a powerful tool that we have access too. But it needs to be used intentionally.

Guard your sanity

You have to guard your sanity, and you have to be mindful of what you consume.

Don’t spend your days watching negative stuff all the time.

Pick your battles

You also have to pick your battles and let people live their life.

Curate your social media

Your smartphone along with Instagram are such amazing tools.

Yes, we’ve all heard of how social media can be bad for mental health.

But why not be proactive here?

It’s time to take control and curate your feed.

Unfollow all the accounts that are shallow or make you feel bad.

Replace them with wellness account, amazing doctors and therapists, healthy eating, sustainability etc. Prioritize those accounts bringing you tips for you to live a better life.

There are so many great educational content on Instagram.

Educate yourself and keep learning

So Prioritize the wellness and educational content but stay far away from the negative accounts.

There’s no need to be engaged in gossiping and interacting with negative people who are always complaining all the time.

If you have friends who always complain, mute them, okay?

Just mute them.

Be ruthless when it comes to preserving your sanity.

Because truth is your sanity and mental wellness are actually gold.

I do this relentlessly. I’m ruthless when it comes to that.

And you should do the same.

Don’t forget to move

Now it’s time to switch up the pace a bit. Let’s talk about the importance of movement.

Now you’re like, Stef, what does that have to do with anything?

Moving. Like, huh?

This is a blog about how to be happy.

Well, I really do believe that moving has a lot to do with how to be happy.

Because I don’t really know any happy couch potatoes. 🤷🏾‍♀️

I’m not saying that to be mean.

If you think you are a couch potato, I’m not saying that to be mean, okay? We all start somewhere.

“It’s actually funny because I’m actually sitting on the couch right now. But we all start somewhere. But I think this is something that is so important.

When you move, when you decide to lead a healthier lifestyle, your body is constantly, being filled with those feel-good hormones. And obviously it’s good for you.

And it’s all connected, right?

If you move, you start feeling good. When you feel good, right, you start being happy.

Chi-ching !

As within so without

You feel good, you happy, you’re in a good mood.

And then when you’re in a good mood, you tend to spend a much better day.

Now, if you can keep recreating this day in and day out, of course we’ll have bad days.

But if you try your best to be mindful about that, then you increase the good days in the month.

And this is how you can slowly become a happier person.

Domino effect

So it’s all connected.

And then by being a happy person, it also affects your mental health because things tend to not get to you as easily as before.

You know when you’re in a really bad mood and you wake up from the wrong side of the bed and you fell like it’s going to be a shit day?

Anything can irritate you, right?

Someone walking right into you on the sidewalk because they’re on their phone not paying attention can really irritate you really beyond measure.

You know, anything can feel disproportionally worse.

Don’t let one thing spoil everything

Next thing you know, you go to the supermarket to buy your favourite item, it’s out of stock and you get really mad.

My point is anything can irritate you.

But if you’re really in a good mood, I find that the buffer tends to be a little bit bigger.

Let’s say you’re in a really great mood, oh my God, I’m going to have a fantastic day today and someone cuts you off in traffic.

Well, you might still think they’re an a-hole, but it’s not really going to impact you as much.

So all this to say that I’m a huge exercise advocate.

Move your body to feel good!

Find what you like

And some people tell me that they don’t like moving.

I’m not really sure that’s a thing.

I think most people haven’t found what they like yet.

There are a million things to do.

You don’t have to force yourself to be on the treadmill for one hour. There are so many other things.

You could start by walking.

You could try to find a new route around your house every week. And you could do so many things.

Explore hobbies and play more

You could play Dance Dance Revolution on TV, on YouTube, and then you move your body while you’re dancing.

There are so many things to do.

Go ride your bicycle around your neighbourhood.

Try to find, explore new parks, or go to the next neighbourhood.

My point is you don’t have to step into a gym. You could also move outside by using the real world, or by using the power of the Internet, by bringing in on-demand content into your living room.

YouTube is a crazy tool to get you moving without even leaving your living room.”

Just do your best

Just try your best to keep moving.

I really, really can guarantee you it will impact your quality of life and in turn make you a happier person.

Now, the last point, pay attention to what you eat. I’m not telling you that you need to eat healthy all the time. Okay, I surely don’t, but try your best.

Fuel You body

Turn into a fun game, trying to find tasty food that are also healthy.

I’m a firm believer that the quality of what we eat really does impact our body chemicals. Now, I’m not quite convinced that a calorie is a calorie.

Yeah, a calorie might be a calorie, but the quality of the calorie and the quality of the food we consume does matter.

I noticed that with myself. Let’s say I eat a very shitty meal.

By shitty meal, I mean like not the healthiest.

Let’s say a highly processed meal versus something that’s more earthy, you know, where I can really clearly see each ingredient.

I know what they are. I don’t have to guess.

Prioritize real food

It doesn’t have to be salad, but we could easily tell.

Super heavily processed, and food that you can’t tell

Whenever I consume these two different foods, I feel totally different

Processed food always makes me feel so empty inside.

The other, earthier, more real food always hits the spot.

I always feel revitalized, rejuvenated.

Don’t take everything so seriously & just Try to have fun

So all this to say to try to be mindful of the quality of your food and try to increase said quality as much as possible.

And these were my tips on how to be a better person, how to be a happier person in your day-to-day life.

So this was my message for today.

But before I go, remember, my love, that you are a beautiful, unique creation, a masterpiece, one of a kind, and can never be duplicated. I wish you a nice day, and I will see you in the next one.”

Feminine Embodiment & Self Love Practice

I created my “Unleash your Feminine Power” to help you really start diving into your own unique power.

In this course, you will learn to connect with your body through some very sensual movements.

There is no fancy choreography to worry about. I really wanted to make this as simple as possible.

The goal is to give you a somatic practice that you can implement into your daily routine in order to start embodying your authentic self.

It is high time we start prioritizing our relationship with our own body too.

Because in order to be truly happy and content in life, I really believe you need to strike for a balance.

That means feeding your soul, your heart, your body.

And this is the goal of my ” Unleash your Feminine Power“.

The beautiful thing is that once you start getting in touch with that fire within, it only grows from there.

This energy will go on to light up your path, simultaneously guiding you through life.

So in a way, it is your own inner guiding compass. 💕

Get in Touch with your feminine today through the self love embodiment practice

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Women Self Love Wellness Retreat

I am so passionate about women empowerment. Everything I do is based on this. I want to see more women embrace their authentic selves. Trust me life gets so much better.

That’s the main focus of my self love women retreat. In this Wellness retreat, we go deep. I really love to connect with my fellow sisters.

That’s why I only do small groups of 10-12 women.

This retreat is an invitation to embody your feminine and to dive into radical self love. Growth and shedding past limiting beliefs is the focal point.

We do this through various workshops, wellness practices such as breath work and lots of somatic movement.

As a dance teacher, of course we will also be using the power of dance and music to process, release and shed things that are holding us back so we can be born again.

Welcome to our transformational retreat where the focus is all on YOU.

Not only that, but we do it in style and comfort.

Our next retreat is in a breathtaking villa on the beautiful island of Gozo Malta. We will be staying in our own private villa.

And did I mention our own private chef? with our own private pool 🤭.

It is the perfect time to slow down and prioritize yourself.

Also, don’t forget to stay in touch for my Bali self love women wellness retreat, for pure feminine embodiment and lots of dancing also.

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Cheers to your next adventure

On that note, I am leaving you with this popular episode from my women podcast “She thrives” with Stef Barti

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