How to Romanticize Your Life as a Woman in Your 30’s

I am so happy you landed on this in depth blog about romanticizing your life in order to get the most out of life.

Women are getting more and more interested in bettering themselves.

I see this daily through my self-help women podcast focused entirely on self improvement for the ladies.

I regularly cover such topic on my podcast ” She Thrives” with Stef Barti. The show is available on both Spotify and Apple podcast.

Now we are seeing so many ladies looking for ways to optimize their lives through self help.

I truly believe there must be some sort of global awakening happening and this gets me really happy for my fellow ladies.

So I took the time to put this awesome guide together. I hope you are ready to learn lots of life changing tips to start romanticizing your life.

One of my life mission is to help women optimize their lives and become the best version of themselves.

I really believe that we need to first realize that we are responsible for our lives. Then we can finally start showing up in life intentionally and start thriving.

I also have a podcast episode covering this exact topic, helping my beautiful ladies to romanticize their lives.

Here is the Youtube video format for my video girlies 🙂

Reasons why it’s important to romanticize your life

So what is the fuss with this “romanticizing your life” thing?

Prioritize your life

Romanticizing is all about putting the focus back onto your own life. I ascribe by it religiously.

Once you start romanticizing your own life and prioritizing yourself, everything becomes so much easier and much more fun.

Forces you to be in the present moment

This is one of my favourite outcome to deliberately choosing to prioritize your life.

I have been doing it for a while now. It feels like playing dress up and gets me so excited about the most little things.

Cultivating gratitude

You always hear people talk about the benefits of practicing gratitude. Yet so often people don’t know exactly how to start doing that.

Well I am here to tell you that committing to romanticizing your own life has a way of making you so grateful for life.

You probably see these girlies on Instagram always talking about how grateful they are.

Although it might look annoying to some but I promise you, it’s not necessarily an act.

How do I know?

Because I am one of those annoying girlies 🤭

It’s me ! #SorryNotSorry 🤭

My Instagram @stefbarti is all about helping women love themselves and their bodies through dance and various somatic movements.

So I regularly show the girlies how to be grateful for the little things. The goal is to inspire you to do the same and elevate your own life.

Greater appreciation for your own life

Once you start showing up in your own life in a mindful way, you start having a greater appreciation.

You start cherishing so many other things that you might have been taking for granted.

Increases Life Satisfaction

So yes all this romanticization thing is all cute but, in case you haven’t realized, the goal is to actually increase your overall life satisfaction.

And it works!

So I urge you to give it a try.

What is the alternative anyways?

You only have one life and it is the one that you are living right now.

You can’t live anyone else’s life. So why not make yours as great as possible?

Exactly that’s the whole point my girlie 🙂

Be Happier in Life

Because at the end of the day, I want you to get the most out of life.

This is the ultimate goal.

So the more you romanticize your life, the more present you learn to be. Then you start seeing the beauty in all the little things.

All this behaviour change increases your energy, ultimately making you so much happier in life.

If you ask me, it’s a win-win situation. 🙂

Mindset Shifts to Help you Romanticize your life

Embody the energy you want to attract

Likes attract likes when it comes to getting the most out of life.

Once you understand that you can really start crafting the life of your dreams. Yep! The same way that we put those Pinterest board together. 🙂

It sounds like a sort of law of attraction and manifestation but it truly can be that simple .

Be Delulu AF

We can learn a thing or two from our Tik Tok girlies, amiright? 🤭 

Let’s all be delulu and go through life with the most main character energy.

Embrace positive mindset

I am a firm believer of positive mindset. Now that doesn’t mean that you can’t be a realist. I consider myself both a realist and a chronic positive person.

Learn to see the glass half full VS Half empty

This is tightly linked with what I wrote earlier. b

Being positive helps you squeeze the best out of life.

It’s about radical acceptance.

For example, if you are going through a difficult situation in life. It really helps to see and accept things as they are.

Instead of accepting defeat, you can then start getting creative and looking for a way to improve the situation.

That’s what I think the art of seeing the glass half full truly about.

I am a firm believer in doing life this way and it definitely makes every thing so much easier instead of pulling teeth with what’s out of your control.

Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness is the art of being in the present moment. It stems from the meditating world.

But the goal is to be more aware of your self in the now.

You’re encouraged to observe your feelings and emotions without judgement.

Be grateful for what you have Now

Can I get an Amen here?

Yes us girlies we always strive to improve ourselves.

Indeed, there is a lot of admiration in letting self-growth be an intrinsic motivator.

That said, you also need to learn to appreciate your life and be grateful in the present moment.

Truth be told, if you don’t learn to appreciate what you have right now, you won’t be able to appreciate it either later on once you have even more to be grateful for

It’s all in the mindset.

Look for the beauty in everything

Practice this daily. Leave the house and train your mind to find beauty everywhere. The more you train yourself, the easier it gets.

Ways you can start romanticizing your life right now

Start Today

I urge you to start implementing these guideline right now in order to get the mot out of your life.

Romantize your life through daily self-care routine

This section is so important that I decided to dedicate a whole separate blog for it.

Truth be told, this is what we mostly think about when it comes to romanticizing our lives. We think of the little daily acts of pampering and self care.

And of course they matter.

They matter a whole lot.

Daily routines can have such a big impact on your life.

You should strive to incorporate self care routine into your life as much as possible.

They are so important in my life.

They offer a regular way for me to grind myself and be thoughtful.

Through my daily routines, I learn to enjoy the small moments in life and be grateful.

Most importantly, I am in moment.

So yes, romanticizing your life through a set of daily routines such as a regular “at home spa” helps decrease stress and make you more present in your daily life.

Prioritize sisterhood

I want my other girlies to know that romanticizing our lives through the daily little acts is very powerful.

But it also goes beyond that.

For example, sisterhood is one of the best thing you can start prioritizing right now.

I promise you that your life will improve from that alone. Especially that us women grew up pitted one against another.

I won’t deny that cattiness do exist in the women community. Because it does.

So I totally understand the reticence here.

Still, I want you to have a bit of faith that not all women are catty snakes out to get you.

There are lots of beautiful souls out there waiting to uplift you and be a part of your positive women circle.

Travel with likeminded women

There is nothing better than traveling with other like minded women.

There is a very unique energy in the air. And they are one of my favourite activities. I always come back refreshed.

That’s why I also started organizing my own women travel retreat. But more on that later 😉

Join women embodiment retreat

I am absolutely obsessed with women retreat.

I attend a few women retreats a year and I also organize them myself.

For example, I am hosting a women only dance retreat in the beautiful paradise island of Minorca in Spain.

We will embody our most divine feminine through dance.

All while staying in one of the most beautiful private villa with a small group of other awesome girlies.

Think private cooking session with our own chef and lounging by our own private pool sipping rosé or a fancy mocktail (for my non alcoholic girlies) 🤗

Yes! please!

We’re definitely passing the vibes check and all about that goddess energy.

And I am here for it!

Avoid those Pitfalls

Don’t fall into the comparison trap

Comparison is truly the thief of joy.

Learn to avoid comparing yourself with others like the plague. I know this is harder to do for some people, especially with social media like Instagram.

You just need to start believing the you are awesome just the way you are.

This is where romanticizing your life will also help you put the focus back on your own life.

That way simultaneously helping you be less concerned with what’s going on in other people’s lives.

Stop getting jealous of other girls

There is really no reason to be jealous of other girls.

If you find yourself getting jealous, it is most likely because the other person triggers you.

This often happens when they reflect some deeply rooted insecurities within yourself.

I encourage you to take those situations as a learning opportunity and to dive in.

You will learn a lot about yourself if you approach life that way.

Also the more you find yourself glowing the easier you will start attracting other ladies living in their own lights.

When you start hanging out with other thriving girlies, jealousy becomes redundant because one girlie’s win is also your own win and vice versa. 💕

I really wish that for you because there is so much magic in sisterhood.

It’s such a pure, uplifting energy that enhances life ten fold.

Don’t be a Debbie downer

I will be honest with you because I truly care about you living your best life.

No one likes a Debbie downer.

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If you think closely, you probably go crazy length to avoid hanging out too long with that friend who’s always being the party pooper.

And the Math is definitely Math-ing.

That’s because no one likes a mood killer.

So make sure that you don’t become one because not only it is a social repellent but it doesn’t do anything to improve your life.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself

We all have bad days. I am not referring to those days where we’re feeling under the weather.

I don’t think there is anything wrong with letting ourselves have off days where the emotions can move through us and wash away.

That said, make sure that you don’t fall in the trap of being that person who is constantly fishing for sympathy point.

Whatever you do, don’t become a chronically sad person.

You know those people who seem to believe the world is out to get them?

Yes, please don’t become like that girlie. You got this and I am rooting for you 🙂

I recorded this specific episode to help you get out of a funk on those hard days.

These are methods that I follow myself and they do work. 🙂

Stop the non stop complaining

That’s the last toxic behaviour that I think you should keep at bay.

The problem is if you don’t keep the habit of complaining under control, it soon starts to breed into other aspect of your life just like bad weeds in a beautiful garden.

A cheat code in life is to put yourself in other people’s shoes.

For example, we all have that one friend who does the most complaining.

Now how do you feel when you’re around her?

She might be the most lovely person but I bet she drains your energy quicker than any other more positive friend.

So the goal for us it to be that beacon of light both in our own lives but also within our community.

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Wrap up

I know that life gets tough. We all have bad days.

Trust me, even those perfect looking girls on Instagram. But we really need to keep shifting our mind.

Most importantly remember that you are one of a kind.

This is literally the tagline of my podcast. I repeat this over and over again.

My dream is to help women see how uniquely beautiful we are. I am not talking about physical beauty but I mean the whole package.

Each one of us is one of a kind.

There is no one else like you. And this is your ultimate super power.

The sooner you realize that and start embracing it, the better your life will get.

So I do urge you to step into your unique essence and start romanticizing your life right now.

If you follow this extensive blog to romanticize your life, trust me, you will start enjoying life so much more.

I also regularly post uplifting messages on my Instagram @stefbarti

Join the community and most importantly, stay awesome my girlies 🙂